Stop Anxiety by Adjusting Expectations

So this week in review of the last few weeks I’ve been pondering about how I set myself up for failure through expectations of myself, that I impose on other people so I share with you some of my thoughts about expectations and how we need to give grace and mercy to ourselves.

Old expectations trigger your cortisol, but you can adjust them.

Anxiety is caused by our own expectations more than we realize. For example, a pothole in the road causes huge anxiety if you drive right into it, but if you see it in advance it’s manageable. So anxiety is caused by the expectation of a flat road when that fails to fit the facts.

Of course, expecting potholes all the time would not relive anxiety either. Realistic expectations are the key to a smooth ride. But how can our expectations be realistic when the world is unpredictable?

“When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are.”
― Donald Miller, A Million Miles in a Thousand Years: What I Learned While Editing My Life

“We were promised sufferings. They were part of the program. We were even told, ‘Blessed are they that mourn,’ and I accept it. I’ve got nothing that I hadn’t bargained for. Of course it is different when the thing happens to oneself, not to others, and in reality, not imagination.”
― C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed

Romans 8:28 ESV

And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.

Ephesians 2:8-9 ESV

For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.

This week I talk about how to handle setbacks

When I was thinking about this week podcast I came up with 10 things you can do to help so your setbacks don’t throw you into a free fall or make you want to stop and giving up your goals or whatever it is you’re trying to work forward to.

  • Expect discomfort we will have resistance
  • Failure is part of moving forward
  • Evaluate what is going on never for reflect with trusted mentors or friends
  • When making decisions think our plan for obstacles anticipate problems
  • What can you control? Focus on what you can control.
  • Rest and have fun sometimes it’s good just to get away from your problems.
  • Keep a positive attitude
  • Be open minded to new approaches except constructive criticism
  • Be responsible take the responsibility for what is your fault and if it is not your fault just leave it there and don’t blame others how can you move forward.

Quote from Richard Branson “entrepreneurs should learn to embrace failure with open arms and deal with obstacles by breaking them down into their smallest components and trying to then positively affect each part.”

 

Perseverance= persistence in doing something despite difficulty or delay in achieving success.

Perseverance is stubbornness with a purpose -Josh Shipp

Great works are performed not by strength but by perseverance – Samuel Johnson

it takes Faith to walk in Perseverance, living in peace when things don’t go right.

 

So this week on the podcast we talk about renewing our minds that we shouldn’t think like everyone else thinks that we need to learn to think like our mentors and most of all like Jesus.
Maybe we need to renew our goals and look at some of the things that were trying to do but it never hurts to revisit and renew our goals on a daily basis.
Romans12:2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
Ephesians 5:25-26Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her 26 to sanctify her,cleansing by the washing with water through the word,
https://youtu.be/nH4Th4f0VOw

Tech Tip

Be careful about email links This video I explain how not to fall for email click bait. A person I know emailed this to me after looking at it you can see its easy to see it is a scam to get you to click on link that is not from Dropbox.

This week I interview Colin Yearwood.

  • We discuss his morning routine, creating a framework for a morning routine.
  • Morning Breathing technics
  • Colin’s weight lose
  • Stoping things by force or welcoming change
  • His podcast 52 wins
  • Finding the positive in your life
  • What is a WIN?
  • Power of Affirmations
  • Trade Expectations for Appreciation
  • Improving your Peer Group
  • Become the best version of yourself
  • Tools we can use to improve yourself.

Join us as we just have a conversation between two friends

Colin’s website is https://www.colinyearwood.com/ where he helps ambitious employees leverage their current skillset and experience to start and grow a profitable online business.

His podcast 52wins link is here The 52 Wins Podcast is all about helping you enjoy your journey by taking the time to acknowledge and celebrating your wins regardless of what obstacles may appear along the way. #52Wins

We mention

 

Your current job is a blessing
This week I talk about how we are providing a service how we can change our mindset and not just show up to work but that we can be a blessing to our clients and our customers because life is not happening to you it’s happening for you we have a calling to serve

Keep going when you’re grounding

This week I share a story that happened when we were white water rafting several years ago.

How God used that story to help me to realize that some of my goals for 2020.

I am not seeing the results I desire so I need to think about staying focused on the solution and the results, not the problem.

 

 

This week I talk about words.

What words are we telling yourself and speaking to yourself are we speaking loving and kind words towards yourself ?

Words that can energize our lives or build us up speaking life into ourselves do you believe that you are somebody? That you have a purpose?

I also believe that we were created in the image of God and that we should be creating as God spoke the world into existence so our words help us to create also.

Proverbs 18:21 – “The tongue can bring death or life.”

Proverbs 3:26 For the Lord will be your confidence and will keep your foot from being caught.

Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not rely on your own understanding; think about Him in all your ways, and He will guide you on the right paths.

https://www.saraannapowers.com/podcast/2020/1/9/ep-080-the-power-of-words

This week I talk about the importance of attitude how 10% of what affects us happens to us but 90% of how we respond affects us more.

How having the right attitude helps us get along with our goals, helps us to get along with each others, also helps us meet  our goals, helps learn new skills and learning to enjoy the journey.

  • We have to have a good attitude to be grateful
  • We have to have a good attitude to believe
  • We have to have a good attitude to learn
  • It is also important to protect our self and avoid the wrong type of people with bad attitude. 

This week I interview Amanda Kelly I thought about dividing this podcast up but it was just a good flowing conversation. We that we starting out with family traditions her background.

I think is valuable content for everyone. We kind of rolled into business items at the 14 minute mark.

Topics covered are

Start with go big and how that got started.

Importance of gratitude

Importance of naming objects & projects

Remembering Traditions and creating them traditions

Scalability

Quotes

I am always busy, which is perhaps the chief reason why I am always well. -Elizabeth Cady Stanton

“If you give us the chance, we can perform. After all, Ginger Rogers did everything that Fred Astaire did. She just did it backwards and in high heels.” – Ann Richards

You can reach out Amanda amanda@anewdae.com